Articles by Abby

There’s a pattern many ADHD adults quietly recognize: the relationships that feel the strongest often hurt the most. This pattern doesn’t come from poor judgment. It comes from misinterpreting emotional intensity as emotional depth. Why Intensity Feels Magnetic Unpredictable partners create a cycle of anticipation and relief. That cycle produces dopamine, urgency, and hyperfocus. The body experiences: anticipation as excitement anxiety as attraction uncertainty as depth The r

When people hear about ADHD medication, they often imagine it as a switch that suddenly turns chaos into clarity. Focus improves. Productivity skyrockets. Life falls into place. That expectation is understandable, but it isn’t how ADHD treatment actually works. Medication can be incredibly helpful. For many people, it’s life-changing. But it doesn’t replace the skills and habits needed to manage daily responsibilities. Understanding what medication can  and can’t do is one o

By Abby Neuberg, Certified Sex Therapist Many women come to me wondering why their sexual desire has change or why it feels difficult to access at all. One of the first things I share is this: desire isn’t something you either “have” or “don’t have.” It’s responsive. It’s shaped by context, emotional connection, stress levels, and how safe and supported your body feels. There is nothing “wrong” with you if desire feels unpredictable. In fact, most women experience desire in r

Sleep disturbances after having a baby are rooted in a mix of biological, hormonal, and behavioral factors. Understanding these connections can help reduce self-blame and guide more compassionate approaches to improving rest. 1. Behavioral Conditioning and Hyperreactivity After childbirth, many women develop a strong behavioral association between sleep and vigilance. The brain becomes highly reactive to small sounds or movements, which is an adaptive response to a newborn’s

a compass People with ADHD often use a wide mix of supports to help manage focus, organization, and emotional regulation. These can range...

Ever catch yourself wondering, “Wait… did I already take my meds?”  You’re not alone. Whether it’s ADHD distraction, perimenopause brain...

If you live with ADHD, you’ve probably asked yourself this question more than once: Why can’t I just start the thing?! You know the task...

If you’re someone who gets overwhelmed in noisy environments—whether due to sensory processing issues, neurodivergence, or just plain...

In my previous article, It’s Not Always Body Doubling, Sometimes It’s Drafting: Why Working Side by Side with Somebody Helps Get Things...

For many people with ADHD, starting a task can feel like trying to push a car stuck in mud. You know where you want to go, you know what...

By Abby Neuberg The Overlap No One Talks About ADHD in women has been under-recognized for decades. While boys are often diagnosed young...

I was recently featured on the podcast Change Your Relationship to Sleep – Therapist Conversations with Abby Neuberg , hosted by Kealy...

I'm in perimenopause, and I want to say first: I have so much compassion for what you’re going through. If your nights feel restless, fragmented, or just plain exhausting, you are far from alone. Sleep difficulties are one of the most common—and most disruptive—symptoms for people in perimenopause and menopause. ( Note: Those in perimenopause may use she/her, they/ them, he/him, or be non-binary, gender queer, gender fluid, etc. and this post is for us all. ) During this time

If you live with ADHD, you’ve probably experienced something called time blindness . It’s that feeling that time either disappears or...

Sex and intimacy hold the potential for deep connection and pleasure — but they can also bring challenges, misunderstandings, and even...

Masking in ADHD means hiding or overcompensating for your struggles so you can fit in, avoid judgment, or keep up appearances — often at...

Have you ever wondered whether you—or someone you care about—might have ADHD, Autism, sensory processing issues, or be a Highly Sensitive...

🧩 How This Exercise Builds Confidence & Self-Esteem The simple practice of writing down three things you appreciate about yourself each...

As a therapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), I’m often asked the same question: “Should I use a...

Sexual avoidance can feel isolating and confusing, but it often arises from very real emotions, experiences, and relationship dynamics....