How to Navigate Other’s Emotions as a Sensitive Person
Maybe you were born more sensitive to others’ feelings or grew up in an environment that reinforced being hypersensitive or aware. For example, if you were a child of parents who are emotionally volatile, you ma...
“Save the ladies, not the boobies,” says my thirty-three year old best friend about breast cancer awareness. She undergoes chemotherapy every three weeks, has had a double mastectomy and a hysterectomy. She calls herself a “flat top” and makes cheesy jokes when she i...
Loss can feel like a cruel teacher. It not only points to the holes in your life, but also the other holes that never feel like they will be filled. You can feel as if you are losing a part of yourself, your history, and your security.
In my previous article, I talked about nurturing the self as you would a child. This isn’t to say that you would infantilize yourself, but to actually treat yourself with the kindness and respect. In my work with adult survivors of trauma, many people, when introduced...
I too want to scream when someone says that money can’t buy you happiness. I want to say, “But let me try!”, but many have tried and money wasn’t the key to happiness. The challenge with growing up with a trust fund, wealth, or some type of large financial support is t...
Imagine for a moment, a new born baby or an innocent toddler trying to grow and be in the world. All s/he really wants is to be safe, loved, and curious. Think of how s/he is so honest and raw about her feelings. Imagine how s/he sees the world with such possibility an...
The hardest part about dating is the “dating game” which often creates more harm than good. There are the social norms of not harassing or abusing on dates which are really important. But other dating games can end up suppressing a person’s own intuition and desires, l...
I am really quite tired of reading the “20 seconds to a Happier You” articles. Mostly, emotions are far more complicated and deeper rooted than telling yourself it’s “not such a big deal.” Frankly, life is full of pain and suffering, and many times one needs to stay w...
There is so much in a kiss: pleasure, intimacy, and connection. The mouth is built to receive and express. The lips, the door way of the mouth, are lined with a high number of nerves, where babies first receive nurturing and also explore their worlds. It is no wonder t...
As a therapist, I will tell you a big secret – the most important question I ask is “How did that make you feel?” Yeah—a running joke for we’ve all heard—all you have to do is say that phrase on repeat to be a therapist. But in practice it is the hardest question for m...